Understanding bullying

How do you go about understanding bullying when you think it might be happening to your child?  The truth is, childhood relationships can be full of difficult emotions.  Studies show that children in the playground can engage in ordinary meanness on average every 2-3 minutes.  Where as physical aggression may occur every 10 minutes. And verbal attacks, every 30 minutes.  It is then inevitable that at some point, a child will be mean to yours. And your child will do or say something mean to someone else.  

It is inevitable that at some point, your child will be engaged in acts of meanness.

But how do we recognise these ordinary acts of meanness and social learning? And how do we distinguish them from bullying which is a serious and complicated problem? One with potentially devastating outcomes. Being the target of bullying is a frightening prospect at any age. It can lead to anxiety, depression, or poor self-esteem with effects lasting long into adulthood. And these long-term consequences are often as bad, or even worse for the bullies.  

A sound understanding of bullying is something every child needs from the adults around them.

But to understand bullying, we must first distinguish it from ordinary meanness.  While one is a natural part of children finding their way within complicated relationships, the other is a significant method of peer abuse.  And it is with this complicated issue that this session will focus.

This session is taken from our course: The Happy Child

Dr Kathryn Peckham is an Early Childhood Consultant, author and researcher and the founder of Nurturing Childhoods.  Providing all the knowledge, understanding and support you need to nurture your growing child.   www.nurturingchildhoods.co.uk


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