We all want the very best for our children. With a wish to see them feeling good about themselves, we may tell them how beautiful, strong or clever they are. We want them to feel like they can do anything, be anyone and achieve whatever they put their minds to. And so we can find ourselves encouraging them and spurring them on every step of the way. But if we want our children to grow up feeling worthy of praise, that is itself worthwhile, this needs us to be more aware.
Do you know what your words are saying to your children?
But the trouble is, too much praise, or praise for the wrong things can be just as damaging in the long term as no praise at all. Praise from others – external praise – will not always be given. And immediate recognition may not always be available. So children need to find their own inner motivations. They also need to develop a strong sense of self that is protected when external influences are less than favourable.
Do you know the messages you leave them with when you are not around?
How we praise children and the messages this praise sends them will then be the focus of this session. We will look at how praise shapes our children’s view of themselves as we consider who we want our children to be.
This session is taken from our course: The Happy Child
Dr Kathryn Peckham is an Early Childhood Consultant, author and researcher and the founder of Nurturing Childhoods. Providing all the knowledge, understanding and support you need to nurture your growing child. www.nurturingchildhoods.co.uk
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