The Happy Child

Five steps to managing your child’s anxieties

Does your child worry about things, causing difficult emotions? We can all feel anxious about different things in our lives. But before your child’s anxieties stop them from grasping some great opportunities, help them to manage their anxieties with some simple steps to managing your child’s anxieties.

Should you worry about your child’s anxiety

In my work I am seeing more and more adults who seem to have lost the art of play, coming to me unsure of how to act, their role within the play, or concerned for when things did not go as expected. While no child needs to be taught how to play – they will make fun with the most limited of means – they do need permission. And they need adults who understand its importance

Can you help a child to feel less anxious

Anxiety is our bodies way of recognising danger and, through triggering the fight-flight-or-fright responses, getting us back to safety. Felt in its proper place, anxiety, is perfectly normal. It can become a serious problem however when it becomes uncontrolled, when it is constant, or it is affecting daily life.

How is your child’s level of self-esteem

When you begin to think about the qualities that you wish to inspire in your child, you will quickly see why this needs some careful handling.  And while it is all too easy to make mistakes if we don’t take a moment to think about what we are doing.  Children need opportunities to develop their abilities and to experience their success.  But at the same time, they need to feel reassured that they are important and loved, irrespective of their achievements. 

Feeling worthy of praise, that is itself worthwhile

Do you know what your words are saying to your children? We all want the very best for our children. With a wish to see them feeling good about themselves, we may tell them how beautiful, strong or clever they are. We want them to feel like they can do anything, be anyone and achieve whatever they put their minds to. And so we can find ourselves encouraging them and spurring them on every step of the way. But if we want our children to grow up feeling worthy of praise, that is itself worthwhile, this needs us to be more aware.

Empowering resilient children

Every parent wants to empower resilience in their children, allowing them to face whatever may come their way. Resilience is our capacity to thrive, despite whatever difficult circumstances that may come our way. It allows us to overcome adversity. It allows us to continue functioning, despite challenging circumstances. And it allows us to rebound after we have experienced difficulties.

Understanding bullying

It is an inevitable part of childhood that at some point your child will say or do something mean, and they will have something mean so to or done to them. But how do you recognise when this natural part of developing understanding how relationships work has turned into something more serious? How do you recognise bullying and what should you do if you think it might be happening to your child?

Understanding conflict

During early childhood, your child needs to learn what their feelings are telling them. They also need to learn how to interpret the feelings of others. And in these early years, that can result in some dramatic disagreements. Friendships can then be tough and conflict will be a natural part of them from an early age. Your child will then need help understanding the inevitable conflict that friendships entail.

Understanding your child’s friendships

Friendships are so important to children and there is good reason. Research shows that when your child has close, reciprocal friends, their self-esteem is likely to be higher. They feel less lonely and demonstrate a more positive attitude toward school. They also cope better with stress and are less likely to be bullied. Understanding your child’s friendships is then a significant part of the care and nurturing you give them. So, learn to understand the friendships that are important to your child.

Managing anxiety

In previous posts I have looked at how you can understand your child’s anxiety. I have considered where it may be coming from and what could be intensifying it. I have also looked at understanding how we can help our children to recognise their own anxieties. In this session I look at ways of managing anxiety should it reach higher levels of concern.